One of the hallmarks of being human is our ability to adapt to different environments and situations. We in the UK have rarely faced core survival issues, but in our fast-paced society, we still need to adapt very quickly...

Why bother with counselling, especially a counselling approach designed with men in mind? The answer is quite simple: you will be more balanced, and better relationships come with more balance. I will not say you will be happier; who knows what...

The answer is quite simple: you will be more balanced, and better relationships come with more balance. I will not say you will be happier; who knows what that means anyway! Nor will I say that you will not have...

I have been passionate about dealing with workplace bullying for many years since I experienced the trauma of being bullied myself. It is nothing less than a travesty that in the 21st Century, we still have people in the...

Finally, there is some logic as to why so many incompetent people are promoted. It is a simple process, really. Take one individual lacking the technical skills to do a job. He is so useless that others just do the...

It never ceases to amaze me how people in organisations seem to have evolved a coping mechanism of being the 'Victim'. Maybe Darwin and Freud are right, and violence and a desire to survive are innate default positions for...

Like many mental health issues, depression is often regarded as a non-illness; this could not be further from the truth. Depression is an illness. Unlike some other illnesses, such as diabetes or Meniere’s Disease, depression affects the whole body,...

One of the issues I often encounter in the counselling room is the distinction between us and them. The creation of what is, inherently, a false distinction between other people and me, or the group I am in and...

Knots are on my mind this week—particularly knots of fear. For so many of us, and yes, I do include myself, that feeling in our stomach, generated by the knot of fear, can hold us back from enjoying life...

Barney Glaser, of Grounded Theory/ Classical Grounded Theory fame, died on 30th January 2022. For many people who read this blog, and for many of my counselling clients, his name will not mean very much. However, Glaser’s work has...