The photo above is of our puppy, Margot, who is a small Border Terrier who has exploded with the force of a whirlwind into our lives recently; living proof that small things matter! I was walking Margot back from town...

In recent weeks, it has been interesting to see how much of a jealous lover anxiety can be. Let me explain. In the early days of any relationship, we tend to accept there is a bit of give and take...

There is something central about counselling that is often missed. For many people, counselling has become a place to go to complain about the unfairness of life. I agree life is unfair. The socio-political structures that surround us are...

Why is the rule of law needed to promote human flourishing? Before I go any further, this post is not political; it is philosophical, ethical and fundamental to my counselling practice. I do not care if you vote Tory, Labour,...

In this post, I will introduce an argument that fun is a wicked problem. For much of the discussion on fun in the posts so far, I have written about fun as an object to be desired, manufactured or weaponised....

With so many counsellors sitting in the room straight-laced and distant, it might sound like heresy to suggest counselling should be fun, but in this post, that is precisely what I will argue. Although ‘counselling’ and ‘fun’ may not be...

Hope comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes, but only radically critical hope grounded on right mindfulness helps us build mental fitness and saves us from wishful thinking. Hope! It is a word I often hear from clients, yet...

Being mindful does not mean being mindless! Over the last year, I have delivered a series of workshops for a large company on mindfulness at work. In the workshops, I explored how people can use mindfulness techniques to live a...

I struggle with many of the fads that affect the work of counselling and, more broadly, the world of work. I have lost count of the different ‘best practices' that have been inflicted on many workplaces, including counselling. Managers,...

Online counselling helps restore mental health and build mental fitness. During the pandemic, many counsellors moved to provide online counselling. It was quite a big adjustment for many. As things are opening up again, at least for the present, we are having to...